“When Known Hearts Meet”
“When known hearts meet after a long, long time, the joy derived is so much; even the ocean falls short”
The other day with my family I had a chance to meet or rather made it a point to meet, which was pending since long. We had number of times missed the opportunity to meet these loved ones, who were an extended family.
Over a period of time, I should say almost four decades of friendship and sharing of family values. We till today cherish the days we shared along with the elders in the family. Both being business families did have their ups and downs, so the family moved to a nearby town and have been living there.
My father was a favourite of them and always brought joy to everyone. They had loved his company and he being a foodie was served delicious food by them. They even invited us all for dinners, breakfast or lunch. They in return were invited by us and that was real joy. We all used to go on short trips and picnics.
After they moved from our town it so happened that they lost the elders and we our father. Now, except our mother and their mother all elders have gone.
When we went to their home we were overwhelmingly received and served with Bhel Puri and kachoris ( Indian Snacks) we spent about 4 hours with them, while leaving we did all the pranams, namasthe while hugging my wife our old aunty expressed “Hum itna khush hain ke samundar bhi kam padta hai” ( “it is so joyful that even the ocean falls short”) I was moved by the words and today I present it as Quote for you all.
It is the Family that comes first
A child is born and from that moment it acquires a family. The family, we all know, constitutes of Father, Mother, Husband, Wife, Sons, Daughters, Grand Parents, Siblings, Uncles, Aunts, Nephews and Cousins. We all grow in such a social set up; we slowly acquire other relationships – neighbors, community, schoolmates and friends in general by passing of the age. These people keep changing or the contact and intimacy diminishes as time passes by. Very rare, at circumstances, are few persons in life, continue to be good friends and continue to be in contact and maintain that age old intimacy.
We find very often, meeting friends and other relations after a long time gap, maybe it might be in terms of years or decades for that matter. We meet, talk of our good times mostly, have a laugh or a smile, have a cup of coffee or lunch and again disappear. We never know when we shall meet them again. So this relationship is mostly short lived.
So, it is the family that is always with us in contact right from birth till death. No matter the age old tradition of joint family, it has almost lost its identity. But the relation which comes through blood has a deeper value and compassion. Be it in India, America, Britain, Brazil, China, Australia, Japan, Ireland or any land.
Bad times are the real test of each and every relationship. I find that it is the immediate family that comes first. It is the first to be counted. It is also taken for granted. It is also expected and accepted of. Whatsoever hardships and strained ties one has; those are forgotten, if not forever, at least for the time being when there is chaos in the family.
It may be that someone is suffering from serious illness and has been admitted to hospital, be it an accident, operation or something. It is the family that comes first. Even the hospital people expect the family to be there by the side. It is the family who are informed of the death first. So, it is the family that comes first.
By writing this post I would only want to make know and plead that it is always good as far as possible to maintain cordial relationship with the family first. An outsider is always an outsider. I do not underestimate the relationship one has maintained with an outsider, the love and compassion they share is to be appreciated, and at times they are the ones who also come first. But it is then an individual experience worth applause.
My Dear All, please share your experiences and thoughts, I know it varies from individual to individual. But the fact is “It is the Family that comes first”.
Grand Old Man in Hospital with Family
Should as Parents, ask and keep track of the children’s income?
Me! Having born and brought up in a joint Indian family with a very indifferent background and culture. Of course I now have my own nuclear family. Things in this world have changed so much that it is now incomparable to the life and style what we lived decades back.
The education, opportunity and independence the young get today makes them earn a big sum quiet early in life, may be they might be earning more than what their own parents earn.
I shall share my thoughts, opinion and feelings in the forthcoming comments here. I only feel if you all can contribute your might in this issue it may be of help to the young, old, parents and children. A modern society that is in the making, which constitutes of various cultures, background, nations, race, religions etc; the money circulation is mind boggling. The value for money has almost lost its charm.
I see and observe that many parents are unaware of the income of their children. When asked they seem to give a sign of no interest. Some of them have made a self pledged rule; they think they have no right to ask.