GET ANGRY BUT NOT GET NONSENSICAL
ANGER! It is said to be one of the negative behavioural pattern of humans. But every human tends to be angry, knowing that, it is though not called for. All spiritual scriptures in this world do not recommend anger as a virtue. But most times we have and are compelled to get angry. The inner being or conscious whispers to stop the act, but man continues to be in the act. There are situations that we have to be angry, may be, to make know the people at the other end as to what is expected of.
In the process of being angry we invite fights in which most of the times both the parties at each ends are put to loss. The harmony is disturbed. The moods get changed. The relationship is strained.
The most common fights due to Anger are among Husband & Wife, Father & Son, Business and Professional Partners, Man & Man, Woman & Woman, Man & Woman and vice versa.
In the whole process of getting Angry, we (please be aware that includes me) get to be Nonsensical, and that creates the whole problem. While we are Angry, we start talking nonsense, stupid, unconcerned, not related to the subject or something which was of the past or of the future which may occur or not, or that which makes the whole thing an End. Can that be a pure fight on which it is related; I feel it cannot, because we tend to be Nonsensical. The resultant could be a Divorce, Business Loss, Strained relationship among family members, friends and community at large. Just One Word uttered may cause a life time repentance and agony.
People at the helm of affairs; be it among the family, community, corporate circles, organisations and business heads are bound to be Angry, that which is necessary and permissible, in running it successfully. Even there being Nonsensical is not expected of. They are shrewd, practical, diplomatic and intelligent; being Angry. So that makes one circle complete. People involved are also happy.
Animals also tend to be Angry and invite fights among their own circles. But I feel they don’t get Nonsensical; the next moment they become friends.
Getting Angry is necessary. Getting Nonsensical is not required.
Left to Me, You and Everyone to decide and act.
ACTIVE PARTICIPATION DURING FUNERALS AND DEATH
Birth! When takes place everybody is happy and overwhelmed with joy, but the new offspring comes crying into this world and has to face the sorrows and joys of all sorts. By the time death comes, the life has established relationships with other human beings who already exist and with those who will take birth during the tenure of the life. The sharing of time, ideas, thoughts, emotions, and love has made that life more strong and compassionate- life worth living. In this world, the dependency and the give & take has made people to live with each other more harmoniously. A time comes to part – when death occurs, in most cases the opposite happens, the dead person attains freedom and peace from this struggle of the so called living. People are unhappy and drowned in sorrow. To pay the last respects and the last rite – the Funeral and the Attendance both are equally important. It’s interesting to explore the participation of people at Funerals. They participate – Passively Active, Actively Passive and Actively Active.
You and I have attended funerals and have observed small or big crowds at them. The participation of relatives, friends, neighbours, and people from the community attending funerals is active and diligent, though it is not an occasion to be celebrated. This is the observance throughout the world for that matter. People gather for the person’s last rites to pay respects. People of the same community gather quickly and participate actively. It is rather an occurrence, very silent and closemouthed.
You are remembered by the kith and kin, on which occasions you had attended. Had you come for the Marriage function, the House warming or the Funeral? You may miss the first two but cannot afford to not attend the last one- the Funeral. If you do not attend, you are marked. In India, at least in many communities it is the practice. At least one person from one family will attend the occasion.
People do not care to meet known friends and relatives when they are alive and normal; leave aside; they don’t meet them when they are in problems & financial crisis or ill health, but they make sure to attend their funerals. So, many people whether they are interested or not have to actively participate. I have seen many friends and relatives attending funerals of their relatives, whom they have never seen in their life time. If that was their love towards them they could at least visit them when the person was alive. It is wondering to observe such an attitude towards life. Attending funerals is a duty, a compulsion; for the sake or heck of it. At some occasions and places it is a celebration, though every fellow involved knows that the time is for mourning.
I still remember the first funeral that I attended while I was still studying in tenth standard. I am talking of the situation few decades back. One of my classmates father had expired, we got the news immediately and it was evening by that time. A small crowd had gathered. After waiting for some more people to gather, they started the last rituals at about 11pm; by the time the body was lifted it was almost midnight. The cremation ground was some were too far which I had never seen. During those days the body had to be carried by the four men on their shoulders, every few seconds, men used to change and give their shoulders to carry the body. On the way to cremation ground, heavy rains started and there was no question of stopping anywhere, you just had to move. By the time we reached the cremation ground it might have clocked 2 am. The pouring of the rain had come to the tail end. The body was kept with lot of hurry in the place made for it. Every person at the funeral was so active in cremating the body. Some brought the wooden logs. Some were busy collecting old cycle tyres. Some brought kerosene. Some running here and there to collect random things for fire, except, maybe, one or two of the relatives, none of them showed a sign of grief. There was a lot of shouting also, and at times blaming each other in the high tone. Everybody wanted to finish the rite at the earliest and go home. They finished the whole ritual with a sigh of relief.
Looking to all this at that tender age it stunned me. I was rather disheartened and felt bad for such disrespect was given to the body. So! This was death I felt. The event was lingering in my mind for quite a number of days, and it was not so easy to forget. I was even inspired to write a big essay on the experience, which I did not attempt, I now feel for it.
There is a place in my Town; it is so strange to know, that if anybody in that place dies during day time, especially after 10 in the morning, he is cursed because everybody would have gone for their respective work. All those cannot participate in the funeral, because by evening all last rites would be finished. It’s an area of working people. If suppose, anyone dies in the evening or early night, everybody is happy for they can actively participate. How it all goes by the night is wonder striking. The whole night is a celebration. Some of them gather and contribute to cook a midnight snack, at times, only one person may bear the expenses. No money for this purpose is asked to any of the relatives of the deceased. Bhajan parties are called to sing for the night. Mostly songs on the almighty, songs on great yogis or yathis and their sayings or lyrics of despair are sung. The Whole Street or Chawl is awake. People from all sects gather and from every household, maybe only the children and old ones may go to sleep. The women folk sit before the body in a big group and cry and sometimes sing a song, some women are talented to cry so loudly that they make others cry and they are encouraged. People sit in groups and discuss on varied subjects, politics could be the main subject. Some people may discuss of the one departed. Scores of them will be playing cards and many would be watching them. There will be constant supply of cigarettes, beedies, betal nuts and betal leaves. Some would be secretly enjoying alcohol. Fire Crackers will be used now and then. The deceased family would be waiting to receive their loved ones, who would be coming from far of places. The whole night goes like this ceremoniously. Next day morning after all known people have come and gathered the last rituals would start. The procession would start with firecrackers all along the road. The whole episode will finish by noon. That day is a holiday for the people of the area; they have a fantastic reason and excuse not to go for work.
I have just quoted examples of behavior; it varies from person to person and place to place. I would not want to elaborate, but there is every scope to do it.
A PUBLIC ACCOUNT
We can find or might have observed, at so many funeral services or funeral rites, people participate actively with or without grief. The death of renowned people, politicians and celebrities are attended by hundreds and thousands of human beings. At times participation by the mobs gathered; lost their own lives or have had big fights. I give here below some incidents taken place in this world which most of us know of Politicians, Dictators, Celebrities and Public figures.
It may be a big list to quote, you may add them into your minds and just think of the subject I am throwing light upon.
Altogether, the active participations at funerals or death at large, give an enormous scope for thinking, on what type of relationship man keeps with each other, whether with the kin or a public figure.
Across the world, since centuries, so many types of practices, rituals and rites are performed. Funeral is conducted by various communities, in different ways all over the world. They might seem strange, surprising and ridiculous. It is the faith in the Rituals, and Reverence for the dead, and at times it is Vengeance. There might be so many other examples, which I might not have quoted, but in this world we come across such situations that give food for our thoughts.
I was thinking about my about, as to what should I write about the about. It is quiet strange, bit cumbersome always to write our own about. Now, what should I write about me, again the question comes and teases me, should I write about this or should I write about that; about my life. Who so ever reads my about will they like about it or not; that I think about.
Is it necessary I should write about the about, if I write, should I write about what I am or who I am. Shall they like about it or not.
How much should I write about the about, should I be brief or give more details
Something pinches me to write about the various things that have happened in this life, I keep telling myself how about writing this or writing about that aspect.
It is a big list about the things, but who is interested to know about it. Why one should give their time, is it worthwhile to come all about to know me.
I went about to see in this blogging world, as to what people are doing about, to just come about to know; real stuff of life and really about this amazing world. My salutations to you all for what you are all about. I want to know more about this blogging world and about the people involved.
One goes about in this world and comes across people who would contribute in one’s life for their betterment and about their well being.
I have read about the about of so many Bloggers which are so unique; but shall my about also be one like that, it may be fine for me, but how about for others.
It is all about what one feels about when writing about their about.
About a few decades back I was born. Started knowing about this world and came to know about so many things that I can share about.
This is not all about the facts that I can tell about.
This is not all the about of my about. I shall continue to write about it and put it on my ABOUT page.
How is it all about? If you like about it, please put a like, if you want to tell something about it, then comment, if you want to know more about me, and then please do follow.
AAP BROOM SWEEPS OWN OFFICE
In Delhi! Assuming office after the historical verdict, AAP- the party, seems to be busy sweeping its own office. The party should have got set gone and should have been busy in the administration of the state. Not even 45 days are complete; the attitude of the people at the helm is no different, rather it is worst. In this process of sweeping it doesn’t seem to realise that jewels, diamonds and precious things are also being thrown in the dust-bin.
Not only Delhi, the whole country knows who and how the party came into existence, why was it given a chance, so on and so forth. I do not understand; does that happen only in India; you are given the power and you show your back to one who gave it to you. The people are forgotten. The objectives just remain as they are; waiting for execution. In such a scenario ‘the vote for recall’ would work. What Anna Hazare was fighting for and proposed to bring it into practice. Given the opportunity, the voters would show their might and again give a befitting verdict, the numbers ratio may make everybody to raise their eyebrows as it had done in the recent election. 67:3.
The below script or words had come from my head with such speed; immediately after the Delhi Electoral verdict in the month of February 2015. But somehow I was not able to publish it in any media and my Blog was not in existence then, it had remained in my ‘Jewel Box‘, I was reluctant to post it on the Blog as it would be irrelevant, because time has passed by and the changes at Delhi would make it stale news.
But, I now want it to be known by my readers, just to have a comparative study of what changes happen. And for us Bloggers it would be a study of both the write-ups. What a dramatic reversal of the scene. What a super blow on the cheeks of people of Delhi. Will they forget? They observe silently. They will show what they are during the next election. But, till then, what about them and the country, where do they propose to take.Question is where is the party heading to? Such a lot of money and time is being wasted in the inner quarrels.
It is a laughing matter to say: Aam Admi Party (AAP) becomes Arvind Alone Party (AAP), its not me who is saying this, its the media and may be the people also.
Arvind Kejriwal! Parshant Bhushan! Yogendra Yadav! Are you listening!!!!!!!!!!!!
I put below this write-up as a Postscript to this POST.
Date: 10/2/ 2015
AAP BROOM SWEEPS POLITICAL ARENA
In Delhi! Much before all the dirt of Delhi was swept and attempts made by the public in the high profile call for clean India _ “The Swach Bharat Abhiyan”; Aam AadmiParty has cleaned the political arena of Delhi. The verdict of the Delhi elections is the outcome of the messy atmosphere that was to be cleaned up. It’s the trumpet call for the rest of the country and especially the major and regional political parties. There are various reasons for the storming victory of the party which sends a warning message to the other so called political parties of its behavior and commitment. The verdict in itself warns the AAP also as to its own conduct in future. The mandate has delivered multiple lessons to all in politics in the country as a whole. In the number game all predictions have proved wrong either be among the media, parties or the people. That was a great surprise to the country and even to the AAP. This will go as a red lettered political history.
The verdict tells us that there is a common man in every man. Just to remember the recent death of Shri R.K.Laxman the great cartoonist, how the whole country silently mourned for him only because he was the only cartoonist who said about the common man in his cartoonish lines for almost half a century. The whole scenario is enough to know about the fact that there is a living common man in every person.
The Kiran Bedi episode has cost BJP dearer and maybe has made even her to repent, having deserted her party. The childish like talk of hers during the elections and even after the verdict shows her immature and unseasoned political stature. The demonstration of lack of leaders in the BJP in Delhi contributed to the sweep which they would dare not to do in future. The walk in of so many AAP leaders in the BJP has made them squeeze their own hands of having left their party. The confusion created among BJP party workers the so called committed Karyakartas in the BJP, the undue importance given to the guys and gals who have just walked in sidelined the karyakartas, made them silent spectators or work with vengeance.
The indifferent attitude of the people of Delhi has again proved that they are indifferent. It is evident when seen in the past few decades they have always shown their indifference, when in the country the others had given a change in the various election mandates, some had given clear mandates to regional parties in so many states and had given chance to BJP, JDS,JDU,NCP,PPP,TDP,Trinimool,Assom Gana Parishat,Jarkhand Mukti Morcha,Akali Dal ,Telangana etc; they still sticked to congress as if they would deliver the goods. Now they have kept all their stakes in AAP.
The innumerable warnings and alarms given to congress were not heard of; that resulted to offer them a Big Zero. The arrogance and overbearance of the BJP were not called for; to them it was not worthy of doing the act as they themselves are yet to substantiate their worth. The number 3 has shown them much earlier to change their attitudes.
Kejriwal’s resignation as CM was at that time looked down upon. But now it has contributed to him enormously. The mind of the voter has given room to psychological explorations. Whatever that might be explored it may still be incomplete, cause the voters’ mind is breezy and unpredictable. See the ridiculous ratio 67:3.
The involvement of the young Turks in AAP has shown as to what the young people of India want from the politics and governance. It was seen that all faces in AAP were new and most of them young, keeping the elders at a distance as if they were unwanted. The barring of entry of older slots from other parties proved right. The whispering in their ears that there is no entertainment here was absolute. The might and competence of the young gave a justification to AAPs success.
The slums and poverty in Delhi seen from the naked eyes and through media is a shame of political governance. Delhi being the capital of the country in such a state of chaos even after 68 years of independence; something somebody has to do about it. Will the new governance do?
The phrases like … “AK 67”, “sirf AAP baki sub saf”,etc; etc; were overwhelmingly received and enjoyed by the people.
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IN THIS POST NO USAGE OF THREE LETTER WORDS.
3 OR THREE
3 OR THREE WHAT DIFFRENCE DOES THAT MAKE TO WRITE. I WRITE WITHOUT USING THAT THREE LETTER WORD. GRAMMAR IS TO BE MAINTAINED; IS THAT A CHALLENGE.
I READ OTHER POSTS; GAVE A SIMLE; SO IT IS POSSIBLE TO WRITE, I BECAME SURE.
I GIVE A HINT TO WRITE THIS POST; SEMICOLONS WORK; ADOPT THEM MORE WHILE WRITING.
3D IMAGES AS ALSO 3D PICTURES; WORLD IS BEHIND THEM.
WHAT ABOUT 3G?
WORLD LOVES 3G!!!
OF COURSE, WRITING IS JUGGLING OF WORDS.
Ha! Ha!! Haaa!!! I MADE IT, I MADE IT, I MADE IT!!!
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In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Ghostwriter.”
GIVEN A CHANCE
Thanks WordPress ! For making me think and scratch my head as to who should write my biography. Whao!! The Ghostwriter!!!
Well I had never thought I wanted anybody to write my biography. Given a Chance, I thought for sometime and have now concluded that let it be one who is dead and one who is my contemporary, one who is from the west and one who is from the east.
Shakespeare, I feel could write much better because my life is full of varied interesting things and that he would understand all of them carefully and put them on paper. He will make my biography look artistic, which my life is all about.
Shobha De a contemporary writer from India could do justice. She is intelligent and analyses things properly as my life needs to be understood in the right perspective. She will open up all pages of my life and present them to the world.
So, if I sign a contract with them to write my biography, from that moment onwards till my death, I will make my life interesting for them to write. Because I would be discussing matters with them about so many things and that I also would contribute to make them successful.
These two writers could make my low profile life a high profile celebrity. Thanks to them also for making me at least think that my biography could turn out to be a sensational hit and ME becoming a celebrity overnight. Oh!! What a feeling that it is!
See me from the Ghostwriter’s angle, Please!!!!!!!!!