This Post was Published on 16th May 2015
THE HABIT OF FORMING A HABIT
HABIT! It is an act which is repeatedly done and which becomes strong over a period of time. The older; the stronger; result to more number of repeats. Generally we classify Habits of two types; the ‘Good Habit’ and the ‘Bad Habit’. There is a thin hair line of separation in between Hobby and Habit. Sometimes it is difficult to recognise the line itself. If the word Hobby is famous, the word Habit seems to be notorious.
Hobby or Habit derives the sense of satisfaction, pleasure and happiness. It’s why one indulges. The desire ultimately when gives that pleasure and satisfaction; the desire itself becomes more desirable. This is what we have to understand.
So it’s the desire, all that matters and the ultimatum is the pleasure of doing the act. It gives mental and physical satisfaction, be it smoking, drinking, walking, eating, swimming, reading, writing, having sex, bird watching, sky watching, or anything that which is done repeatedly at certain intervals that which become compulsions. When they become compulsions they turn to be habits.
The whole process of habit forming is of course depends on the mentality and attitude of the person. Once a small desire is satisfied it gives invitation to another repetition. The desire gets sprouted and tells the mind, the mind is in dilemma & helpless, the intelligence overpowers and decides, the body and senses co-operate, Karma happens, happiness is derived. This completes one circle.
The following is the formula of forming a habit.
DESIRE + DESIRE SPROUTS + MIND IS IN A DILEMMA + INTELLIGENCE DECIDES + ALL SENSES AND BODY CO OPERATE + THE ACT IS DONE, KARMA COMPLETES = PLEASURE/ SATISFACTION/ HAPPINESS OR ANANDA
We normally say – ‘I was longing for the desire for such a long time’, -‘there is a burning desire in me’, – ‘and I was yearning and craving to have it’.
The desire has to be desired so much that it becomes a longing. Putting it to Karma now and then, then and now forms HABIT.
If you have already formed a Habit which you want to get rid off, there is no other way or anything to be reversed. Just kill the desire before it sprouts, killing and killing you have ultimately killed the Habit formed.
It is for us to decide as to which Habit we would like to form; make the finest of discriminations and indulge in – ‘THE HABIT OF FORMING A HABIT’.
PONDER _________ FOR ME, YOU AND EVERYONE
4th March 2015
THE SKIN! Human beings are born with a specific color of skin, basically of the color of their parents or of what we call the Race of the family or of their own country or continent in a broader sense. The White, The Black and The Brown are how they are distinguished as THE RACE. The newer colors of skins of the past few decades are the newer breeds of Humans. An American marries an African and gives birth to a Blackish White. An European White marries an African; the offspring is Whitish Black. Indians are recognized as the Brown, and we still recognize the North Indian Brown and South Indian Brown as a different race. Even an Indian when cross bred with a White or a Black the offspring’s skin color will be Brownish White or Brownish Black. So we all know as to of what skin we have born.
There have been wars on Religion for centuries among the human race; the next reason for wars is the Racial War. Such is the dangerous depth of the most delicate superficial layer of the body – The Skin. The next in line are the wars on territorial and border disputes of countries, and also wars on languages of what people speak.
Now what is The Myth? Humans know from which racial skin they are born of, but most of them still want to have a better look of their Skin and especially the face skin. They see their own skin with their own naked eyes of their hands or other parts of their body innumerable times; but they are much bothered of the face skin that too seen through the mirror. The face is seen in the mirror so many times; maybe the mirror itself is bored of seeing the faces of people. What else can the mirror do; it shows exactly as to what color the skin is. People still want the color of the skin especially of the face to be whitened – this is The Myth.
The myth is most common among the women folk that are evident since ancient times. You see the “Darpana Sundari” (a woman half dressed in dancing pose holding a mirror in the hand and seeing her face) in the ancient sculptures of India. That’s the proof.
In front of a modern dressing mirror we find tens of boxes and bottles of various types of powders, facial crèmes, face masks, face pads, foundations, fairness crèmes, oils, whitening lotions etc;. The investment is in thousands or sometimes in lakhs of Rupees or Dollars which does not yield any interest on the investment; except in the interest of the Myth. People know of what color their skin is, but though, would still like to whiten it adapting to so many methods, the Make-Up using Cosmetics, Medicines, Facial Applications etc; to whiten the skin. Here it is not to be confused and misunderstood that it is a generic subject, but on the contrary it is a fact.
Now who would not like to look nice, almost everybody wants, so accordingly they spend the hard earned money. There are so many companies manufacturing these aids to whiten the skin, and they vigorously advertise to sell. In a way thanks to the Myth which helps and contributes towards the profitability of such companies and is a bread earning source to so many.
It is natural that the skin gets a little darkened when exposed to sunlight; from day-one of a child when it starts playing outside in the sunlight the darkening starts. The darkness is not as much to have changed the whole color of the skin. It is a temporary phase. The madness to change the color to whiten the skin is ridiculous.
One can know the original color of their skin in three ways. The first one is to see the covered parts of the body like the chest or the thighs. The second is to see themselves when they are not exposed to sunlight for many days, especially when somebody is ill for some time or for other reasons. The third is to ask your parents or any elder who has taken you on his chest when you were a baby.
Some tips to maintain the original skin color: Wash the face in cold water three to four times in a day, Drink lots of Water, Check on your Habits, Maintain your Cool, Have enough Rest and Sleep, Eating more of Green Vegetables, less of oily stuff and junk food, One fruit every night, Minimize the exposure to sunlight, Control your Temperament, Early morning brisk walk, little bit of Yoga or a Swim, have Contentment. Just do all this for a few days and check the texture of the Skin; you will be confident and willing to continue it for days & days to come. That is the result to a Healthy body and Healthy mind and that’s the reflection on the face and facial skin.
True! The using of whitening lotions or crème gives a good feeling, cause of the chemicals used and the fragrance which makes the senses satisfy.
So! No need to spend much on whitening the skin. Understand your Complexion and Do as above.
It is the Family that comes first
A child is born and from that moment it acquires a family. The family, we all know, constitutes of Father, Mother, Husband, Wife, Sons, Daughters, Grand Parents, Siblings, Uncles, Aunts, Nephews and Cousins. We all grow in such a social set up; we slowly acquire other relationships – neighbors, community, schoolmates and friends in general by passing of the age. These people keep changing or the contact and intimacy diminishes as time passes by. Very rare, at circumstances, are few persons in life, continue to be good friends and continue to be in contact and maintain that age old intimacy.
We find very often, meeting friends and other relations after a long time gap, maybe it might be in terms of years or decades for that matter. We meet, talk of our good times mostly, have a laugh or a smile, have a cup of coffee or lunch and again disappear. We never know when we shall meet them again. So this relationship is mostly short lived.
So, it is the family that is always with us in contact right from birth till death. No matter the age old tradition of joint family, it has almost lost its identity. But the relation which comes through blood has a deeper value and compassion. Be it in India, America, Britain, Brazil, China, Australia, Japan, Ireland or any land.
Bad times are the real test of each and every relationship. I find that it is the immediate family that comes first. It is the first to be counted. It is also taken for granted. It is also expected and accepted of. Whatsoever hardships and strained ties one has; those are forgotten, if not forever, at least for the time being when there is chaos in the family.
It may be that someone is suffering from serious illness and has been admitted to hospital, be it an accident, operation or something. It is the family that comes first. Even the hospital people expect the family to be there by the side. It is the family who are informed of the death first. So, it is the family that comes first.
By writing this post I would only want to make know and plead that it is always good as far as possible to maintain cordial relationship with the family first. An outsider is always an outsider. I do not underestimate the relationship one has maintained with an outsider, the love and compassion they share is to be appreciated, and at times they are the ones who also come first. But it is then an individual experience worth applause.
My Dear All, please share your experiences and thoughts, I know it varies from individual to individual. But the fact is “It is the Family that comes first”.
Grand Old Man in Hospital with Family
Should as Parents, ask and keep track of the children’s income?
Me! Having born and brought up in a joint Indian family with a very indifferent background and culture. Of course I now have my own nuclear family. Things in this world have changed so much that it is now incomparable to the life and style what we lived decades back.
The education, opportunity and independence the young get today makes them earn a big sum quiet early in life, may be they might be earning more than what their own parents earn.
I shall share my thoughts, opinion and feelings in the forthcoming comments here. I only feel if you all can contribute your might in this issue it may be of help to the young, old, parents and children. A modern society that is in the making, which constitutes of various cultures, background, nations, race, religions etc; the money circulation is mind boggling. The value for money has almost lost its charm.
I see and observe that many parents are unaware of the income of their children. When asked they seem to give a sign of no interest. Some of them have made a self pledged rule; they think they have no right to ask.
PONDER ON THE CREEPER
Creeper! Everybody knows of the creeper plant which grows in all gardens, farms, road sides and forests. Poor thing it has very less strength to stand up and show its stature, it needs something to support it and with that dependence it grows, makes and shows its stand and presence.
This is one more living being which sets an example. After all what is that, it is just a creeper, what’s so great about it? Its true, one feels to say so. But there is something here to be pondered.
Now, first let us explore the silent features of the creeper. It requires very little land to take its birth. It does not expect much of a care to grow big. It does not have a sturdy stem to erect and stand straight or inclined. It is of innumerable variety. It may grow as edible leaves. It may produce a vegetable. It generates flowers, for medicinal purposes, or just good looking beautiful ones. Its greatest weakness and also at the same time the strongest quality which we find in very, very few living things; this is though a contradiction, but its true, that is, its basic element, it is the support on which it exhibits itself as a Living Thing.
Now, I would not like to compare a Human to the Creeper, although humans are having so many qualities of a creeper. If we can understand the life of a creeper, our lives could be much nicer and finer. For that matter we humans do depend on many people and things; from our birth till death. Mother, Father, Siblings, Friends, Teacher and the whole Society at large; are those living things we want. Water, Fire, Air, Petrol, Electric Power, Metals, and what not, how many things can I mention, you know more than me I suppose.
But for a creeper, how much does it expect, just one support that only gives us the example. If its growing in the direction that we do not want, we cut it, it then tries to grow in the way where it gets another support. We can make it grow, and give a support, be it a stick, a pillar, a wall, a wire, or anything that we want to make it look better and beautiful. It can be groomed like a child is groomed and protected by the Parents. As it grows bigger it will show its beauty that we wanted it to become.
We are now to identify what are our great weaknesses and strong points. How can we make our lives better and successful?
Bodily Weak! Putting the mind at work on something else shall help and build it strong like the creeper. The creeper becomes stronger day by day as it grows with the available support.
Not happy with the subject of your education, change it to the one which you like the most, like how the creeper finds the best way to take the support.
Not happy with the place you are living or profession you are doing, its most of the time inevitable, but taking the support of something or someone, I mean exploring the support, that also can overcome. Watch the creeper carefully, it does so.
Come what may or say that it has already come, think of the creeper. That shall solve and place before you the answer.
The behaviour of the human mind is to seek an excuse, any possible excuse for not to grow in competence, compassion, compatibility ….so on and so forth. But the creeper shall not say so, it finds ways and means, how competent it is and that it can be. In some cases it grows so well that it overpowers the one on which it has grown.
It depends though, but its free to grow and live.
That’s making Life Loveable, Peaceful and Successful.
The Creator has given so many such Creations to know and learn from.
THE PHOTOGRAPHS SHOW THEIR TYPE OF EXISTENCE.
PONDER ON THE CREEPER.
I request all readers to insert any nice creeper Photos or Pictures if you have any in the Comment Box while commenting, so that readers could see them and enjoy.
MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ONE AND ALL 2015
HOW MUCH DOES ONE WANT!!! ???
Wealth! How much does one want? I keep pondering over this thought. I ponder, and its not a compulsion that everybody should ponder it. Say! If everybody would ponder what would it be like. Here goes what I would like to say.
Our Great Prime Minister of India & One of the Greatest Human beings Shri Atal Bihari Vajpayee once told in the Parliament_ “Ek Aadmi Ko Jineke Liye Kitna Chahiye”– it means, ‘for one to live this life, how much does one require’. He was telling it in the parliament of the largest democratic country in the world and that too when he was in the ruling Party. In terms of money; how much shall one require to lead a life in this modern world? I don’t say that one should not have lots of money or property. I am not a socialist or a communist. My thinking does not match to them at all. I do not blame the capitalists either, in a way; they are the one who run this world. Because it is the investor who makes people work and give employment. Unless employing the money to work, the economy will not grow.
Earnings from other sources – by illegal means, corrupt practices, dishonest methods, kick backs, swindling government funds, cheating & fraudulent means. Such an earning style may give the person a few hundred rupees to millions of dollars and that too within no time.
In today’s world there are so many thousands of options for one to earn; he can earn a good some in comparatively less time, provided he puts his sincere efforts and commitment to what he is doing. He can earn so much, that he can live a comfortable life.
But, why in many people, there has come a trend to possess wealth by other methods as mentioned above. The percentage of such people is increasing by the day. It seems Honesty has no place among the people at the helm, if such is the situation, the young would continue to do worst things as they grow older and become responsible citizens.
There is a term in English –“Filthy Rich” & “Stinking Rich”- a large per cent of people want to be so, and they have made them the ideal. When such are the ideals; man would find those means.
Today in our newspaper an ordinary clerk in a government department has been raided. They have found more than 70 crores of rupees worth gold and cash. There have been continuous raids like this, where we find officials making property in real estates which goes to crores of rupees. It seems a high profile IAS (Indian Administrative Service) officer had 500 bank accounts. Now, what to say of Politicians, Bureaucrats and some Business people having thousands of crores of rupees or millions of dollars, which shall amount to billions of dollars in total; by which a country can be run and its economy could have bettered.
A petty robber- a pick-pocket or a necklace snatcher when caught by the police would be punished and beaten to almost death in the custody. He might even be sentenced to a few months or years in jail. Which is that constitution and law of a country that could give the quantum of punishment; when compared to the petty robber to those who swindle and rob the money of the people.
If the money kept idle for long it should stink in real terms; like a man’s body if not taken bath for long it starts smelling and a dead man’s corpse will stink so much that you would not want to keep it for a second. The same thing should have been there for money also, if kept idle for long, it should start stinking. Then Money stashed in Swiss banks and elsewhere; kept idle; if it would really stink, then the bank authorities would ask the account holders to take away the money. It may sound foolish, silly or idiotic and funny, but is it not the money of the people that has been kept there. If that could be a reality the idle money would not find a place anywhere.
Such money would find its way into the pockets of undesired people. In Hindi language there goes a saying – “Paapi Ka Maal Chandal Khaya” it means- “the Sinners Wealth is eaten by the Scoundrels”. In Kannada language there is a saying – “Kotiddu Tanage Bachitiddu Pararege” it means “What we give, it comes to us, what we hide goes to others”. Now, who is to tell this to those who want millions and billions; will they enjoy all that during their life time? Is life so long? That it could be enjoyed and finished.
It is true; to live a good comfortable life in these modern times, lot of money is needed. Lot of money can be earned through proper means; there is no dearth of it.
Why adopt illegal, short-cut dishonest means!!! ???
I Keep Thinking
You Hide and Keep
You do not Want to Give
I Want to Know
HOW MUCH DO YOU WANT!!! ???