Pleasing Everyone

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Pleasing Everyone

“You CANNOT Please Everyone Every-time though at thy cost.

Most not aware of thy cost, do not recognise and afford to know.

Hence no Point wasting time isn’t? “

Quote By Shiva Malekopmath Image 1.jpeg

Most think and feel pleasing everyone is a virtue, therefore are busy in the act. Until one realises it was in vain to have wasted such a lot of time. Some still keep doing it.. Oh! God!!! save them.

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74 thoughts on “Pleasing Everyone

    B. said:
    July 22, 2018 at 9:21 am

    Plus, it’s ruining your relationship with others because each will find a reason to resent you…

    Liked by 4 people

    radhikasreflection said:
    July 22, 2018 at 9:43 am

    So true Shiva. One has to learn to say no at times!

    Liked by 3 people

      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      July 22, 2018 at 10:19 am

      Thanks Radhika
      That’s true but some go on pleasing without any invitation. That costs heavy

      Liked by 1 person

    patriciaruthsusan said:
    July 22, 2018 at 12:26 pm

    Very true you can’t please everyone. 🙂 — Suzanne

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    watchingthedaisies said:
    July 22, 2018 at 6:05 pm

    Thank you Shiva. This one is a big learning curve…

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    Infinite Living said:
    July 22, 2018 at 10:38 pm

    Absolutely true. It is not in the best interest of anyone.

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      July 23, 2018 at 7:54 am

      That’s right but some keep pleasing just to win likes and think that they can win the hearts of others. Unfortunately the other end doesn’t have time to know and please them.
      That is where the interest is lost. OMG!
      😃

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    www.corneliaweber-photography.com said:
    July 23, 2018 at 3:20 am

    Thank you Shiva for this post, a very interesting and important subject. I used to be a total pleaser when I was younger, I guess just for the fact of being liked. Well, with aging I realized that I don’t have the need to be kind to be liked, I am just who I am, and do everything with compassion out of my true heart, when I see there is a need for it. It’s a tremendous change and gives me so much more freedom. Have a great week Shiva and enjoy what is given to you.

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      July 23, 2018 at 1:37 pm

      Cornelia you have given the full gist of the meaning for my lines, I am so happy for that.
      My daughter keeps doing this most times, may be to conquer the likes. She has to realise that she does not require to be kind to be liked.
      So one has to realise your advocacy :
      “I am just who I am, and do everything with compassion it of my true hear, when I see there is a need for it. It’s a tremendous change and gives me so much more freedom.”
      Thanks so much for this and I enjoy always what is given to me.

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    Poet Rummager said:
    July 23, 2018 at 8:44 am

    One can know only unhappiness if pleasing others is placed above oneself. Good advice, Shiva!

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      July 23, 2018 at 12:21 pm

      Rummager you understood it right, at first it might look a little fancy and bring some joy too. When you say above self it must not be misunderstood to selfishness, isn’t?
      Thanks for this wonderful admonition.🌷

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    Ben Aqiba said:
    July 23, 2018 at 9:52 am

    Hi Shiva,

    well that can bring you a lot of benefits. Being nice, or too nice even to the people who do not deserve it will bring us peace, calmness, love. Give to get, right !

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      July 23, 2018 at 12:51 pm

      Ben let me first tell you how much I had tried to visit your blog and several times I wanted to comment on your posts. There is some problem, every time it asks me my name, email, address but even otherwise it is not taking my comment. I had told you before about this.
      Ben, I do not deny the fact that it may bring benefits while pleasing others but the whole problem is, when one goes on pleasing others all the time the repercussions turn upside down.
      Giving is a virtue tough but not at the cost of ones happiness and peace. It has to be understood in the right perspective.
      Thanks so much.

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    Patty said:
    July 24, 2018 at 9:30 am

    It may sound as a cliche, but with everything it is about balance, isn’t it?
    Hope you’re ok, dear Shiva!
    Big hugs, XxX

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      July 24, 2018 at 1:19 pm

      Yes it sounds so Patty.
      If all could know of the balance, the World would have been a Happier place.
      Thanks for asking of my well being. It is like this, when someone asks about it with more concern and love even a bit of ill would vanish.
      Keep in Good Health always, I wish for You.
      Big Hugs Back
      XOXO

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        Patty said:
        July 24, 2018 at 1:21 pm

        Thank you dear Shiva! And I am happy to know I am part of making you feel even a bit better. XxX

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      July 24, 2018 at 1:21 pm

      I have browsed your site a while ago, you have posted so many to be read.
      I shall visit ASAP
      😃

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        Patty said:
        July 24, 2018 at 1:23 pm

        Haha, no worries. Just read what interests you 😉 Just happy we connect every now and then, that’s far more important! XxX

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          Shiva Malekopmath responded:
          July 24, 2018 at 1:28 pm

          Past few weeks I had to divert my attention else where for so many reasons.
          Hope things will improve.
          I am too Happy about our connection.

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    America On Coffee said:
    July 25, 2018 at 2:12 am

    Truthful and healthy.

    Liked by 2 people

    bethbyrnes said:
    July 31, 2018 at 9:59 pm

    I have done it for years, Shiva and am coming to the conclusion it is not appreciated. Good post!

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      August 1, 2018 at 7:39 am

      Thanks Beth, it rather hurts.
      I think at some point of time many tend to do it, but people exhibit their colors to offer a lesson.
      That should be the end of it.

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    EttaD said:
    August 1, 2018 at 5:06 pm

    So true, though they sometimes demand it. It is impossible to please everyone! Unfortunately, so much energy is wasted by so many in trying to please everyone.

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    Deb said:
    August 4, 2018 at 9:46 pm

    So true!! We are not here to please others, nor should others expect it of us. We should not expect others to please us either. Be kind, thoughtful and considerate of each other. Hope you find this pleasing 😉
    💙

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    Deb said:
    August 5, 2018 at 1:26 pm

    Pleasing Hugs to you Shiva
    🤗❣

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    delphini510 said:
    August 6, 2018 at 12:28 pm

    As you already say Shiva, it is impossible to please everyone as there are too
    many different temperaments and ideas.
    I believe the attempt to please everyone can stem in insecurity and fear of not being
    part. Not trusting your own self and views.
    It is liberating to know that being loving and kind is enough but retain the freedom
    of your own self.

    miriam

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      August 6, 2018 at 1:15 pm

      I believe the attempt to please….. Not trusting your own self and views.
      It is liberating to know…
      Very Good and very well said Miriam.
      I just like your observation and analyzing capacity. 👍👌
      Thanks
      🌷

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    boundlessblessingsblog said:
    August 9, 2018 at 5:40 am

    Hahaha Oh! God save these beautiful Souls from such follies. Awesome words and for sure how many will you keep on pleasing and for what. One has to completely trust oneself first and then see what others are wanting from you, and how you can help them in their need. Great post, Shiva.

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      August 9, 2018 at 2:18 pm

      Thanks Kamal! You are right, help them and serve them in their need.
      People are in their whims and fancies and may start ordering you.
      OMG! What a World.

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      dilkiaawazsunoblog said:
      February 17, 2019 at 5:20 pm

      Any suggestions for me.. how to come out of the paranoia I am in right now

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        Shiva Malekopmath responded:
        February 17, 2019 at 5:55 pm

        Just be Yourself and Yourself only.
        Do not show any traits of the past that You took and gave them Your ‘Tanu, Mana and Dhana’.
        You will find the difference.
        All the Best to You
        🌷

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        boundlessblessingsblog said:
        February 18, 2019 at 5:36 am

        What kind of suggestions do you want Shilpa do let me know if it is in my limited capacity if I can be of help will surely do so. Have a good day and just a quick advice let go of things that do not matter, this is all our karmas and sanskaras goading us, say a quick prayer of thanking the Lord for everything and keep on doing so slowly the baggage will disappear.

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          Shiva Malekopmath responded:
          February 18, 2019 at 10:55 am

          Thanks Kamal I have suggested her to be all for herself. You can see the comment above here.

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          dilkiaawazsunoblog said:
          February 18, 2019 at 11:01 am

          Ji I will do tat

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            boundlessblessingsblog said:
            February 18, 2019 at 11:20 am

            Thanks dear Shilpa. It will be good for you only. Do not worry at all. We all have gone through ups and downs and that is life it is a roller coaster sometimes good sometimes bad. Keep utmost faith in your God and he will guide you safely.

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              dilkiaawazsunoblog said:
              February 20, 2019 at 5:21 pm

              Yes i have my faith in him.. all will be well

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                boundlessblessingsblog said:
                February 20, 2019 at 5:47 pm

                Great to hear these beautiful words, Shilpa. Keep the faith we r all here for you dear. Stay blessed.

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                  dilkiaawazsunoblog said:
                  February 21, 2019 at 2:56 am

                  ये कभी ना सोचा था मै कहूँगी मुमकिन नही
                  ये कभी ना सोचा था ऐसा दिन भी आयेगा ।
                  जीवन के बडी से बडी मुश्किलों को पार किया
                  मन की उलझाने से हार मान लिया।

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                    boundlessblessingsblog said:
                    February 21, 2019 at 5:56 am

                    Beautiful words so well composed, Shilpa and man ki uljanoh se haar nahi maan na chaihe, useh fight karna chaihe. It will want to destroy you and play with your feelings and thoughts apko useh kabze mai lana chaihe. You have to supersede and learn to change your life.

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                    dilkiaawazsunoblog said:
                    April 4, 2019 at 5:28 am

                    पता है कमल मैं कोशिश कर रही हूँ लेकिन स्जयद मै खुद को रोक रही हूँ क्यों किसलिए ये पता नही पर कभी तो बहुत खुश होती हूँ तो कभी एकदम हार का एहसास रहता है

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                    boundlessblessingsblog said:
                    April 4, 2019 at 5:45 am

                    Yes dear Shilpa and I agree totally with your words but let me tell you we majority of humans are sailing in the same boat. We write such inspiring posts and will want to motivate others but Shilpa it is very difficult to inspire ourselves with all our jamelas that we ourselves carry around and so do not worry my friend just do not meddle too much with this stupid ego that wants to everytime put you down. Read or listen to spiritual masters atleast that is good to know that we are not this body but One Soul and we have are pure bliss and happiness.

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                    Shiva Malekopmath responded:
                    April 4, 2019 at 6:39 am

                    Kamal very precisely said and I am too Happy that I share the same feelings.
                    Yes we do write an Inspirational Post or a Poem but when it comes to us personally there are those that trouble us too.
                    Shilpa I appreciate your frankness and when one is able to express what is happening inside them, there comes Light from some corner of this World.
                    Silencing the mind is all that is needed.
                    Even All Spiritual Masters show the same path.
                    Just put all your attention on the mind, rather speak to it and at times order it and make know You are the Master.
                    I have been in a way with lot of Jamelas these days as Kamal puts it. That is the reason for my absence in the WP.
                    So My Dears look to my latest posts.
                    I shall visit you also very soon.
                    Wishing You and Praying for Blessings to shower on You both.
                    Thanks
                    🎶💞

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                    boundlessblessingsblog said:
                    April 4, 2019 at 7:02 am

                    This is very profound and insightful words so well spoken, Shiva and I totally agree with you. I am so happy to hear from you and that you have not left wordpress bloggers. So many of our old bloggers have left and we used to have such a wonderful rapport but yes as you said work pressures and other things keep you away. I really liked when you said we need to talk to ourselves and be who we are. All this will come up and as I tell Shilpa pl. do not worry we are all humans having a human experience with all our ups and downs and karmas that we have brought with us but being and having trust and faith in our One God will help us and good that Shilpa said it loud it is good must say so that many can give their good opinions too. Thanks a lot Shiva.

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                    dilkiaawazsunoblog said:
                    April 4, 2019 at 5:06 pm

                    I don’t know why do I stop myself when I know what’s better for me.. if u have noticed even writing has taken a back stage for me..

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                    Shiva Malekopmath responded:
                    April 4, 2019 at 5:12 pm

                    That’s the thing happening to me too Shilpa.
                    Things shall change.
                    Let us hope for the best to come.
                    🌷

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                    dilkiaawazsunoblog said:
                    April 4, 2019 at 5:18 pm

                    Yes the best will come.. and we will sail through our turmoil together..😊

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                    Shiva Malekopmath responded:
                    April 4, 2019 at 5:20 pm

                    My Pats Dear Friend
                    🌷👍

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                    boundlessblessingsblog said:
                    April 4, 2019 at 5:16 pm

                    Yes I have noticed from a long time, Shilpa your writing too has impacted u. I can only say one thing pl do not react or give importance to things which r of no importance.

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                    dilkiaawazsunoblog said:
                    April 4, 2019 at 5:24 pm

                    What is important and what is not is confusing..In December I had started medication for antidepressants. I stopped the medication myself after feeling littlw lityet..better but sometime things and mind up out of control

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                    Shiva Malekopmath responded:
                    April 4, 2019 at 5:37 pm

                    Stop all medication.
                    Take long breaths and have frequent strolls do not mingle in wasteful chats.
                    Close eyes and call the inner Bliss which You are.
                    Once You taste it nothing can shake it.
                    Pray and Prayers are answered.
                    Fond Regards

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                    dilkiaawazsunoblog said:
                    April 6, 2019 at 4:34 am

                    Shiva that strike are missing.. that blissfull thoughts are scary.. a fear a lack of confidence… don’t know what I am making myself now

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                    Shiva Malekopmath responded:
                    April 4, 2019 at 6:42 am

                    Dear Shilpa I have written a response to Kamal’s comment, please read.
                    Praying for your Goodness.
                    Thanks
                    💞🎶

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                    dilkiaawazsunoblog said:
                    April 4, 2019 at 5:17 pm

                    Thank u sir…those words mean a lot.

                    Liked by 1 person

                  dilkiaawazsunoblog said:
                  February 21, 2019 at 2:56 am

                  Thank u for you kind words and support it really means a lot to me

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    Janae Johnson said:
    August 29, 2018 at 7:06 pm

    Love this!
    😊💫

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    Neha Sharma said:
    September 21, 2018 at 10:05 am

    Loved this one!

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    ladycee said:
    January 1, 2019 at 4:43 pm

    So true Shiva. A complete waste of time and energy.
    Happy New Year! 😃

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      January 2, 2019 at 9:55 am

      Thanks Lady!
      Wishing You too a Great and Happy New Year 2019

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        ladycee said:
        January 2, 2019 at 10:05 pm

        Hello Shiva,
        I hope you are well. I noticed when I went to your site that you’ve not been posting for a few months. Glad to hear from you!

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