Love & Hate

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Love & Hate

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Love could turn into Hate

It could be as intense

Yes! Love could turn into hate. Here I am using the word ‘could’ as it may or may not turn so. When it comes to love, nobody would ever think that at a point of time in future they would start hating the person whom one has loved. In many cases that would not be the case. But when it turns to be so, it could be as intense as the love was. There is a need for some inflow and some outflow, and that should be balanced. Otherwise it is a sign of danger.  

I only feel one should be cautious on that. So if things turn the opposite, it is always better to be away from the relationship and close the matter.

..the very thought

..the very sight

..the very voice

..the very touch

   Is been love

                                                                                                           ..the very thought

                                                                                                           ..the very sight

                                                                                                           ..the very voice

                                                                                                           ..the very touch

                                                                                     Has been Hate

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94 thoughts on “Love & Hate

    Love & Hate | Matthews' Blog said:
    October 27, 2016 at 2:08 pm

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    Nisthur Anadi said:
    October 27, 2016 at 2:20 pm

    True

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    Heartafire said:
    October 27, 2016 at 2:22 pm

    So tragically true. We must be careful what we say and do with the people we care for, and even those who are not as “important” in our lives lest we create acrimony and wounds that may never heal.

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      October 27, 2016 at 2:44 pm

      Well said, tragically true!
      Care that matters while we spell, write or act.
      Wounds even when heal, create a scar.
      Thanks so much for the visit.
      I have been busy past so many weeks as I am to execute festival orders in hand, I am unable to visit other blogs. I shall visit yours very shortly.
      Regards,
      Shiva

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    mariannescottwriter said:
    October 27, 2016 at 2:24 pm

    All relationships need to be nurtured. Love that is well tended perseveres all trials. So in order for love to flourish, daily affirmation of that love is necessary. It could be as simple as sharing a hug, a kiss, a tickle, a laugh. It’s enough to keep the ‘opposite’ at a distance. But a good thought provoker.

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      October 27, 2016 at 2:34 pm

      Beautifully said Marianne!
      You are not only right but the tip is what one should do. I vote for that Hug, Kiss,Tickle and Laugh or any other that could matter.
      I loved that word ‘Nurture’ what you have said.
      Shiva
      🙂

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        mariannescottwriter said:
        October 27, 2016 at 2:48 pm

        Do you have a Facebook account?

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          Shiva Malekopmath responded:
          October 27, 2016 at 2:52 pm

          Yes I do, but I very rarely open it and am not at all active there.
          My account name is ‘Shivakumar Malekopmath’ and I have my page there for the blog as ‘The Shivas Ponder’. You wanted it for some reason?

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            mariannescottwriter said:
            October 27, 2016 at 5:05 pm

            I will try to access it as I’m on FB all the time. I use it a promotional tool for my book. I have sent you a friend request so I can follow your posts.

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    Tony said:
    October 27, 2016 at 2:36 pm

    Absolutely agree Shiva. From my own experience. And amazing how it shows in the eyes eh? one day depths of love, another, hard granite stare!! And doesn’t it raise the issue…how we use the same word for a human emotion, which changes, and a connection with our true self, which doesn’t. Maybe we need another word?
    kind thoughts to you Shiva (I know…I said I was going… soon, very soon).
    Tony

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      October 27, 2016 at 3:32 pm

      Yes it shows in the eyes, in the hands, in the voice, in toto the act; be it Love or Hate.
      Why you say you go, you are here in our hearts Tony!
      Shiva
      🙂

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        Tony said:
        October 27, 2016 at 5:08 pm

        Thanks Shiva..lovely thing to say 🙂

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    patriciaruthsusan said:
    October 27, 2016 at 3:00 pm

    We always need to be careful to end with forgiveness. That wipes out hate which is more damaging to the hater than the hated. Happy Diwali to you and yours, Shiva. 🙂 — Suzanne

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      October 27, 2016 at 3:09 pm

      Forgiveness is the Repair Workshop of hatredness.
      Rightfully said Maam!
      Thanks for the visit and best wishes for Deepawali and same to you too.
      Shiva

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    Amy said:
    October 27, 2016 at 3:54 pm

    Well said, Shiva. People can be complicated…

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      October 28, 2016 at 6:05 am

      Yes Amy!
      They can and they are most times. By their influence we should not turn to be one – complicated.
      Thanks,
      Regards,
      Shiva
      🙂

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    Daal said:
    October 28, 2016 at 11:35 pm

    Well done, Shiva – have found that pat answers about working at love, gestures, etc., can backfire. Distance as well as patience is sometimes the answer.

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      October 29, 2016 at 7:32 am

      That is what I mean to say Daal !
      The more you show love the more the backfire. It is a very strange attitude of the beings; even pets and animals included. OMG!
      💆😂😱💔🙅

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        Daal said:
        October 29, 2016 at 10:30 pm

        yeeessss — so great you brought this up – because everywhere else I only see advice about pressing in further, which in my experience only makes things worse. maybe it works for most others – so its good to see that I’m not the only one for whom it doesn’t work 🙂

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          Shiva Malekopmath responded:
          October 30, 2016 at 6:22 am

          😅Daal I appreciate your outburst and it is needed. What is the use of pushing and pulling ; most importantly we are to see if there was any love left or was it there before.
          I bring your kind attention to the comment of Beth Byrnes here and my reply to her, please come over and throw more light upon that. It’s an important topic needed to be discussed. As you say we find lot of advice everywhere. 😁
          Shiva
          👌👍🙋💟🙏

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    kindergartenknowledge said:
    October 29, 2016 at 6:12 pm

    You are so right! Love is ever evolving between the highs and the lows and the inbetweens. The challenge is to not forget the positives.

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      October 30, 2016 at 6:43 am

      😃 Yes the challenge is also to understand aboutl LOVE itself. Going more deeper and to its core.
      You can as well see, read and comment as too what others have contributed.
      Thanks
      👌👍🙋💟🙏

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    Jay Colby said:
    October 29, 2016 at 11:50 pm

    Great post

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      October 30, 2016 at 6:38 am

      😃 Thanks for that, but why don’t you join the discussion here.I feel you could contribute something very important. Please do if you have the time to be spent preciously here. JAY!
      Shiva
      👍🙋🙏

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    bethbyrnes said:
    October 29, 2016 at 11:56 pm

    So true but then it wasn’t really love in the first place, I believe. It was maybe fondness or need or possessiveness. I just think real love grows into more love, but that is just the first thing that popped into my head reading this. I need to reflect on it more. 🙂

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      October 30, 2016 at 6:06 am

      Beth!
      You have caught it right, almost to the core. Catching the neck and asking; in a way you are right, questioning if it was love anyway. Yes it might be fondness, need, possessiveness, infatuation, arrogance, one-sided or /and innocence. I am also of the same opinion that on the contrary the love should grow and blossom like a flower emitting fragrance. But over a period of time it tends to deteriorate as the expectations and wishes crop up and the ego system starts applying. I am very happy that a nice discussion is going on here and as you feel please reflect on it more. My previous post Respect & Command has also been having some fruitful discussions which are still on, you can throw light upon that also.
      My next two posts I think will be on some important topics which I am putting it on the international platform.
      Here it is Deepawali festival, the festival of lights. It is the only festival especially for we business people in India. Past so many weeks I have been very busy executing pending orders, so I was unable to visit other blogs.
      Hope everything is fine with you and your dear hubby.
      Regards,
      Shiva
      🙏🙋💟

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        bethbyrnes said:
        October 30, 2016 at 12:59 pm

        We are well, thank you Shiva. Yes, these discussions are so valuable and I appreciate the exchanges with you and people all over the globe here. It is a lovely place to stop and think and share. Enjoy Deepawali! Namaste, dear Shiva.

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    Daal said:
    October 30, 2016 at 8:42 pm

    Shiva & Beth, you make good points. For me, I often find that I tend to over intellectualize, & that it only sometimes does me good in terms of interacting with people. Hence, I need to not dwell too much on why’s & how’s. Ideas of how I ‘should’ react, act, think, feel – turn the other cheek sorts of things, etc. – can end up making me more dislike the other person all the more. Sometimes what works best for me is to give myself a break from the person – to retreat, to wait, & then wait some more, which can be extremely difficult for me to do.

    In addition, ‘one size fits all’ answers usually make me worse, angrier too. Good luck to those for whom they do work.

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    Daal said:
    October 30, 2016 at 8:43 pm

    Shiva – would love to see pix of Deepawali – please tell us more 🙂

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    michnavs said:
    November 1, 2016 at 1:00 pm

    very well said Shiva. A beautiful reminder that the one who can hate so much can likewise love so much…

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    dragonscaleclippings said:
    November 1, 2016 at 1:02 pm

    neat poem!

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    Shiva Malekopmath responded:
    November 1, 2016 at 1:38 pm

    ‘My Quotes’ menu.
    Thanks so much
    Shiva

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    Hemangini said:
    November 3, 2016 at 3:05 am

    Love, loving and living are all wonderful and for sure love can turn into hatred in a single moment… Few lines but so well put.. so like you Shiva.

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      November 3, 2016 at 7:53 pm

      Thanks Hemangini!
      Your thoughts are thoughtful.
      Your words are meaningful.
      Your comments are beautiful.
      Yes in a single moment it can turn into hatred.
      The main reason being one when loves he or she would have given their whole to the other with no expectation of any misfire in the future.
      So one has to be very careful. Don’t you think so?
      Fond Regards to YOU.
      Shiva
      😃🙋💓

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        Hemangini said:
        November 4, 2016 at 3:20 am

        hehe thank you for the sweet words Shiva 🙂
        It’s fun to have found a sweet and young friend like you..

        Let me quote John Green… “You don’t get to choose if you get hurt in this world…but you do have some say in who hurts you. I like my choices.”

        One can never be too careful in the matter of hearts but yes one can chose and after one point it’s done and you have to deal with whatever comes next.Sometimes people (man/woman equally) overlook every wrong their other haldf/bf/gf does because of love, some of them wake up but some of them stay in it for life…

        Have a wonderful day 🙂 see you

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          Shiva Malekopmath responded:
          November 4, 2016 at 8:06 am

          Making me sweet and young makes my collars raised and instigates me to see myself in the mirror more than twice, Hehe !!!

          Yes what you say is right in the matter of hearts, one knowingly or unknowingly jumps into it after which to know how deep are the waters and what terrains one has to face, be it for life.
          Hemagini I am happy a very matured contribution is being done by you and others here on this topic, which I feel one should know and understand, especially the young who are on the verge to fall into the trap. 🙂
          My day is fine and is going wonderfully well.
          Shiva

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            Hemangini said:
            November 5, 2016 at 3:01 pm

            hehe I am glad you had many looks in the mirror.. I love conversations with someone who doesn’t mind putting his/her thoughts up for speculation, it’s so much fun and informative. Sadly, I do not get to spend much time blogging so I haven’t made any close buddies or so but it’s fun to talk to you and few others at time.. Thanks for it Shiva 🙂

            Have a wonderful day 🙂

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    Deb said:
    November 4, 2016 at 12:53 am

    Such a waste of time to harbor the emotion hate. That means you are giving control over to the other person. Forgive and move on…don’t waste your time hating!! 🙂

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      November 4, 2016 at 8:18 am

      Deb!
      Now, after this comment one round of talks is complete.
      Forgive and move on, no wasting time. Well said. The world is as large and is no dearth of Love to find elsewhere. Isn’t?
      Shiva
      🙂

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        Deb said:
        November 4, 2016 at 10:46 am

        Yes and if we all did this then the world would be filled with love and void of hate! Even if the majority would do this it would be enough to feel the shift!!
        Hope you are having a lovely day!
        😊

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          Shiva Malekopmath responded:
          November 4, 2016 at 1:40 pm

          Yes Deb I am having a lovely day.
          In love relationship the strings are so delicate in the beginning but as time passes by they become stronger and it is bound to. Although it the most hurt that one receives from the most loved.
          To make it know as you say the shift is the need of the hour.
          🙂

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            Deb said:
            November 5, 2016 at 12:19 am

            Oh I’m happy to hear that. Yes it is true but that is because we care the most about the ones we love and what they say & do matters the most to us. That is why we need to be mindful of how we treat those we love and try hard to understand their actions. Communication is key.
            🙂

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    Shiva Malekopmath responded:
    November 5, 2016 at 8:56 am

    You have hit it right – Communication is the key which people do not use properly; to lock and unlock or use different key to a different lock, which ultimately spoils the lock itself. It happens with my product. My customers sometimes use a different key to unlock and spoil the lock; I receive an emergency call. 🙂

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    deb said:
    November 13, 2016 at 6:24 pm

    Yes, love is such a flow of feelings, that it takes diff definitions when spoke by people

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    Tanveer Rauf said:
    November 15, 2016 at 5:28 am

    Shiv your post is worth reading and thought provoking. I believe in keep an eye of children’s income that what do they do earn or what’s the source of their income just to keep them away from any wrong activity.
    May our children be safe from all evils amen

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      November 15, 2016 at 8:44 am

      Yes Tanveer!
      You are exactly right and have knocked on the subject’s main purpose.
      This comment you have put on my Post ‘Love & Hate’, no problem anyways.
      I too wish like you – Let our Children be safe from all evils. Amen!!!
      Shiva

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    Shivangi said:
    November 16, 2016 at 5:10 pm

    Lovely wise post! I agree with you!

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    Wendy said:
    November 25, 2016 at 7:16 am

    If love can turn to hate then hate can sometimes turn back to love… I’ve found from my own experience that it’s often how we look at something and focussing on the negative aspects of a relationship makes us see more of that… If we flip it and remember what we loved once before and focus on noticing those things love can return… Many people give up on their relationship in the ‘hate’ phase when with some tweaks and a change of perspective they could grow the best relationship of their life… So many people must be throwing away those opportunities.. x

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      November 25, 2016 at 7:46 am

      Wendy that was really nice of you to turn the table and further give scope for discussion and to focus on reconsidering the matters which have gone worse or there is a way to return back with more love than before.
      There is no doubt about what you say and that is what we do in our day to day life with our partners – Husband & Wife or Lovers. There are daily patches of new dressings on the same hurt, don’t you think so- hahaha.
      But some wounds are so deep where it is not possible to continue, then it is better to let go the relationship. And give scope for each other’s happiness.
      I did love the words you said -“So many people must be throwing away those opportunities..” Yes it sounds so good, as if one has lost, that it was a Golden Opportunity.
      And, Wendy it is again so difficult to build a new relationship, like as if building a new empire. Hehehe
      Love to You,
      Shiva
      xx

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        Wendy said:
        November 25, 2016 at 8:47 am

        Absolutely true Shiva… Some relationships are simply ‘toxic’ and shouldn’t continue and where this isn’t the case and maybe people are just focussing on negatives (which aren’t toxic) and thinking that there is ‘better out there’… sometimes they are missing what’s already the potential to be amazing right under their nose! x

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          Shiva Malekopmath responded:
          November 25, 2016 at 4:23 pm

          The word toxic itself expresses all.
          One should evaluate and taste as you say the toxicity, and end the matter.
          Love should be a mix of ingredients which make a Good Drink, sweet, bitter and….

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    maureenrose7 said:
    November 26, 2016 at 11:12 am

    This gets right to the heart of the matter…I have had this very thing happen more than once in my life…Finding that the more I would blame the other for their shortcomings or pain they caused me the greater the hate would grow and really I was only hurting myself…I was not healing from the hurt and I was not causing it to never have happened in the first place. My cure for hate is love and care for myself. I forgive myself much easier in life now and have a better understanding of human nature I also try hard as it may be sometimes to keep control over my emotions…How good you are Shiva to bring a subject like this to light by way of such a lovely piece of writing I am thankful to know you friend! 🙂

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      November 27, 2016 at 6:20 am

      Maureen it shows your openness and that you have a larger heart having to express this.
      Here you have put one most important statement ..
      ” I was only hurting myself…I was not healing from the hurt and I was not causing it to never have happened in the first place. My cure for hate is love and care for myself. I forgive myself much easier in life now and have a better understanding of human nature”
      I feel this should be the attitude of ones’ who have been trapped into this and are struggling to come out. It is such a dilemma I feel having a broader attitude towards life itself can lead to better days and happier days.
      In this context I feel you should read my poem ” Healer of the broken hearts”;

      https://theshivasponder.wordpress.com/2016/04/11/healer-of-the-broken-hearts/

      Some issues are important, delicate and dangerous in life to be handled properly.
      Thanks for this contribution here.
      Shiva
      🙂

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        maureenrose7 said:
        November 27, 2016 at 1:15 pm

        You are such a kind new friend to have made! Thank you so much Shiva truly for all of your very thoughtful words to me. What a lovely thing to read as I start my day! I will be sure to read your suggestion as well! Always suggest post to me please that you think would do me good! I appreciate that so much! 🙂 ❤ 🙂

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          Shiva Malekopmath responded:
          November 27, 2016 at 5:58 pm

          Oh! Maureen that is good of you to suggest me to suggest posts that shall shall be good for you.
          Yes I shall not only mine but some which come my way.
          Actually I used to shy a bit to recommend my posts thinking that they will think otherwise. That I am publicizing my posts. I would never want to do that.
          If I have recommended any that was for their good.
          You know it is difficult to understand people unless you know then better.
          I liked you are open to receive.
          I am to go to bed now.
          Meanwhile you refer posts from my poetry menu and read them, do read the comments also on each of them.
          I normally do not chat. I reply and comment on good and meaningful comments.
          Good Night Maureen!
          Shiva
          🌷🙏

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    Nimmi said:
    November 28, 2016 at 3:58 pm

    Awesome and very true words! You said it right this relate to what I wrote. All is about our actions and using of words.
    Thank you for posting this! Hope you are doing good 🙂

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    boundlessblessingsblog said:
    November 30, 2016 at 6:07 am

    So beautiful post, Shiva and amazing on love and hate that go together and read inseparable in themselves none can do without the other and love can change everything and all can be so happy. Loved your post.

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      November 30, 2016 at 8:26 am

      Even this comment, I am sorry this beautiful comment of yours had gone into my spam box, I do not no why.I just saw it now.
      Thanks so much for the description. You people encourage me so much and I am inspired to write and think more. After all what more better and good things you can give to the world.
      Good Words! Good Deeds!
      Fond Regards
      Shiva

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        boundlessblessingsblog said:
        November 30, 2016 at 9:20 am

        Thanks once again and you are always welcome, but do guide me how I need to clear my spam box too.

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          Shiva Malekopmath responded:
          December 1, 2016 at 7:42 am

          On your top left side bar on the monitor there are two boxes one is the sites and the other is reader. Click on the sites you get a list of items where you can go.
          Click on the WP Admin your dash board gets open there search for the spam box along with other boxes
          See if there is any number attached to the word spam, say spam6 it means there are 6 spam messages pending for approval. Click on that, read them if you find good comments then release them. By clicking on the messages you get to approve, delete or permanently delete .
          Do accordingly.
          I hope you could now do it.
          Please inform me after you have done it.
          Have a nice day.
          Shiva
          🌷

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            boundlessblessingsblog said:
            December 1, 2016 at 7:46 am

            K let me see will do as u said

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            boundlessblessingsblog said:
            December 1, 2016 at 7:52 am

            I went there but there is only pages, testimonials, portfolio, themes, menus, sharing, people, plugins, domains and settings in my left side on my sites, where is WP Admin. So what do I open.

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              Shiva Malekopmath responded:
              December 1, 2016 at 8:23 am

              Right now I am sitting on my desk top for you to tell this. The WP Admin before it was on top of the list, now I am getting to see it on the extreme bottom of that where you have opened. Can you see that now tell me immediately, So that we can go step by step.

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              Shiva Malekopmath responded:
              December 1, 2016 at 8:30 am

              Look to the Akismet message and click on the spam if any you shall get the Comments page there you will see the All, Pending, Approved, Spam, Trash.
              work accordingly.
              Are getting to see.

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    My Theory said:
    December 11, 2016 at 6:22 am

    You have some nice posts here and it will take a while to finish this off but I will definitely finish it.

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      December 11, 2016 at 6:39 am

      You are welcome. You may take them one by one. No hurry. I liked your willingness to finish reading them. I look forward.
      Thanks,
      Shiva

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        My Theory said:
        December 11, 2016 at 7:39 am

        Please follow me and watch out for my next post on Winners and Losers which is more like a paragraph.

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          Shiva Malekopmath responded:
          December 11, 2016 at 7:45 am

          I am sorry I thought I had already followed you. On my desk top I could not find the follow box on your site, so I have just now used my smartphone and have done it. Please be sure I shall be reading your posts.

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    Kuki said:
    March 25, 2017 at 2:34 pm

    U spend all your life in the pursuit of love, and in the end hate? So sad but true

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      Shiva Malekopmath responded:
      March 26, 2017 at 1:49 pm

      Yes to a certain extent it is true. But getting to be sad is not welcome.
      After having to be in the pursuit of love we should have the satisfaction of having given love. You may speak of the hatredness from others, having to give more attention towards that it shall disturb us and bring distress to us. Better to be away from them.
      I Wish You Love always around You.
      💟💝💜💛💛
      Shiva

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